Does This Make Me A Selfish Bitch?

One more question: I had a phone call tonight from a guy, and for the life of me I can't remember his name!

Crap. I suck at this, anyway, he's in law enforcement. He works for the DA policing the police. On the side he's a musician. When he retires he's going to do music full time. Anyway, he asked me to go with him to a gig in Louisiana today. Well, I barely know him, one phone call, and I already had a date with Miguel, so I declined.

My question is, I don't want my first few dates to be at his gigs. Next Friday he's got a show at a restaurant. My reasons are: he won't be attending to me. Selfish or what? And, I don't want to seem like a groupie. I want my dates full attention on me, at least the first few dates. Eventually, yes, I'd love to go to his gigs, after we get to know one another without worrying about everybody else and his show.

Does that make sense? Does this make me a seflish bitch?

No, it doesn't make you a selfish bitch; but this does need some Pat-style correction. This man is looking to impress you--and impress you with what he does best. How many women swoon over men on stage or in the front of a room captivating an audience? Elvis? the Beatles? Bill Clinton? I once had friends mock me for weeks after all of us went to see Kenny Loggins with 'second row from the stage' seats. *I* didn't think I was doing a thing; I didn't think I was feeling a thing...they laughed and told me I had twinkles in my eyes the whole night...(or maybe it was the lack of underwear on his part).

Seriously, he wants you to think he's great from the get go...it's kind of a big deal that he's offering you such a nice trip. Now having said that, do I think that muscians and police officers have more feminine energy? Yes, I do. Does that mean that his masculine may far outweigh his femme? No. But alpha's are more balanced between the two energies and neither of us know anything more about him. Give him a chance. You never know who's going to turn out the be right guy or what he might have planned for just the two of you after the show.